Friday, September 14, 2012
These days, everyone is talking about 50 ways to whip things up in the bedroom. PenthouseStore.com features a whole line of bondage toys and fetish-style lingerie. “Kink” is no longer an elusive little word to describe less-than-common sexual practices—it is a word that sells! Everyone is reading about or thinking about dipping into bondage play. Only 20 years ago it was considered perverted and only practiced by the mentally disorderly, but BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadism, Masochism) is now at the footsteps of countless bedrooms in America and around the world.
You’ve read that steamy book series with the silk necktie on its cover. You’ve licked your lips as you wondered about what it would be like to spank or tie up your lover. You might have even placed an order for a flogger or two. And now you just need to go through the final steps before you dive into the fantasy—introduce bondage play to your partner.
How? You might worry about your partner’s reactions. They might be uncomfortable, or even unwilling. But before you let any of those fears stop you from approaching your partner, stop and think about this: have the 2 of you ever been aroused from a little spanking during sex? If so, your partner’s response might be more receptive than you think.
The best thing to do is talk to your partner in an open, no-pressure, and light-hearted way about your desire to explore some of your BDSM fantasies. It’s best to start with something light such as using a spanking paddle, tying up your hands with rope or tape, or blindfolding yourself as your lover runs soft feathers up the down your body. Remember, gently ease into all of this and always make sure that both parties are comfortable.
As things began to heat up and the both of you are ready for “advancement”, try a set of nipple clamps, a ball gag, a flogger, or shock therapy!
The BDSM world encourages all players—beginners and enthusiasts alike—to establish a “safe word”. A safe word is basically a word that either party can utter to immediately stop bondage play, especially if one feels uncomfortable for whatever reason. A safe word should be something completely unrelated to the play session at hand: “burrito” or “monkey” are good examples.
As always, clearly communicate with your partner about the various bondage fantasies you want to explore. Start off with light toys and gradually progress to more extreme ones once you two are more comfortable and more experienced. Keep it fun and safe!
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